WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CHILD'S BEHAVIOR AND LEARNING?
I have heard many parents say that it is the school’s responsibility to
educate our children. Well, yes and no. Parents are the 'f'irst responders' and they
need to triage their children and have them ready for the experts to commence
the next step. So many children come to school with absolutely minimum skills, knowledge and/or manners because their parents believe that it is the school’s responsibility
to educate their children.
At five, even six years of age, some children cannot count from one to ten.
Ask the children to identify colors and they often cannot. Nor can they recite the
alphabet. Days of the week or months of the year remain a mystery. Only a few
animals can be identified and they cannot recall their address, their parents’
phone numbers, or their parents’ full names. Shoelaces remain undone because
they have not been taught how to tie them. Some are not fully toilet-trained, while
others cannot do up buttons.
KIDS LEARN MORE IN PRE-SCHOOL YEARS THAN YOU IMAGINE!
Many of these skills, including tying up shoelaces, can be achieved by the age of three. The problem is that many parents don’t realize that and their expectations for their children's learning are much too low. Kids can do far more than we imagine. They love to take on responsibilities such as chores at this age and love to please you. We often do too much for them and coddle them causing them to miss out on some great achievement experiences. Kids learn more in those preschool years than they probably learn at any other time.
Since you are reading this column you are probably one of the parents that prepare your children for school. You hopefully work in partnership with teachers to educate your children, It is not the school’s responsibility to raise your child, to teach them manners, character nor to give them a set of values. That is definitely a parent’s role! School can help reinforce the things you have already taught them, but please don’t leave it to the school to do.
Our major parental role is to create wonderful adults that have all the skills, education and manners required to have a productive life ahead and be positive contributors to society. If you are a Christian, your role is also to give such an amazing example of Christ’s character to your children that they say, “I want that for my life, too”, and consequently follow Jesus.
WHY DO PARENTS NEGLECT THEIR 'FIRST RESPONDER' DUTIES?
Such duties as teaching them strong family values, life skills, positive character traits and basic knowledge before they go to school.
a) Ignorance. Some parents are just not aware that it is their responsibility
to teach their children basic skills, or that their kids are teachable from
an early age.
b) Inadequate role modeling. Parents may lack adequate parenting skills
because their parents were not positive role models.
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c) Busyness or self-absorption.Some parents don’t have time with,or for
their kids.
Perhaps they are financially pressed and both need to work. They may not see
their children for more than an hour or so each day, so teaching them behavioral
expectations is the last thing on their minds. Some are more absorbed with fulfilling
their own dreams than training their children.
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d) Suitability. Some adults who are not geared to raise a child. Ignorance and
a regret that they ever had a child is reflected in the child’s demeanor and character.
To all parents who adequately prepare their children to meet the
challenges of receiving a great education and who are working in partnership and
harmony with the school, thank you! You are a blessing to your kids’ teachers
and are very much appreciated. You express the love you have for your children
that way and show the determination you have to see your kids reach their
potential. You can look back near the end of your life and see what your children
have achieved and say, “We did a good job!”
If you are a parent who needs help in training your children about
acceptable behavioral expectations, there is plenty of help for you. You can
‘Google’ search parenting topics and attend parenting sessions or seminars. Check out our website at www.forefrontfamilies.org
Written by Brian Burgess, Forefront Families
Written by Brian Burgess, Forefront Families
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