I was interested to read this article in Stuff.co.nz - and I thought it was well worth adding as a blog.
telling your daughter how beautiful she looks or how handsome your son
is send the message that looks are the most important thing for success
in life? UK's women's minister, Jo Swinson, says yes and warns that
placing too much emphasis on appearance can lead to body confidence
issues later on. Read the story here: http://www.stuff.co.nz/
life-style/beauty/beauty-news/ 8777143/ Should-you-tell-your-kids-they- re-beautiful
It has long been dictated (particularly by the media) that the recipe for success is one of four things - to be pretty or handsome, to be athletic, brainy or come from a wealthy family. Unfortunately, probably 80% of us do not fall into any of those categories. The 80% people are not the most popular amongst their peers, are not automatically picked for the best teams, are not the 'ideal' shape or do not own the coolest stuff.
As parents we need to discourage this 'success' myth and inform our kids about their real worth. What really matters is not skin deep, but what comes from the inside - kindness, integrity, honesty, commitment, reliability, a positive attitude and thinking of others. Real success is not so much in being THE BEST but being THE BEST WE CAN BE.