There is a tribe in Africa that has a very beautiful custom. When one of the members makes a mistake, the entire
tribe surrounds him/her and for two days, they speak of the great things that member has done.
It is their belief that humans are good at heart and that we all seek security, love, peace and happiness. However, in this pursuit, we sometimes make mistakes and when that happens, the tribe unites to reconnect that member with his/her real nature.
This tribe's greeting is "SAWUBONO, or I value you. I respect you. You are important to me."
The reply is SIKHONA or "so I exist for you."
What a wonderful way of dealing with wrong choices we make in life! Wouldn't we all love to be acknowledged as an essentially great person who just made a wrong decision? So often we are shown no mercy by others who make equally as many mistakes themselves. Preferably, with effective parenting, we can learn how to make wise choices, but we must be allowed to learn by our mistakes. Many people become emotionally paralyzed because they are so fearful of ever trying a particular activity again. How different it feels when an understanding boss, parent or friend will say, "Let me help you through this so you will know how to do this successfully next time."
Can we be that person?
Comment by Sally Burgess, Forefront Families LLC
Source: Found on Facebook with the following acknowledgement underneath:
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Thank you Renato Accioly for sharing and thank you Kenneth James DuPlooy for sharing your knowledge about the Ndebele people - with Kenny J Miyagi, Jose Monteiro, David Kalikiano Perry and Renato Accioly
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