A young father told me once that because his parents were so hard on him, he intended to spoil his kid rotten and not discipline him until he was at least 7 years old.
What is the likely outcome of a kid that has been spoiled rotten? You may produce 'A ROTTEN KID' who:
- Believes they are the center of the universe - they feel entitled.
- Defies authority and disrepects others.
- Throws tantrums when they can't get their own way.
- Refuses to be a team player.
- Does not respect their stuff.
- Is a nightmare at home, in the classroom or staying with friends.
1. Giving them unlimited stuff.
2. Setting no boundaries or consequences.
3. Giving in.
4. Siding with your children no matter what the circumstance.
KIDS WANT PARENTS TO BE PARENTS.
- They don't want wishy-washiness or anything goes.
- They want clear expectations.
- They want you to set rules and stick to them.
- They feel safe and secure when they know you will keep your word.
- They want you to be firm and fair.
- If you are not a strong leader in the home, THEY WILL TAKE OVER. They don't want to, but they will.
Kids don't want stuff. They want you. (Your time, your guidance and your love)
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