KIDS NEED BOUNDARIES

When we do not know what the rules or boundaries are, it makes it very difficult to function within a family or society with any confidence or security.  Everyone wants to know what is expected of him/her.  Therefore parents need to know what they expect within their families as well as indicating their expectations to their children and to caregivers.

Ø      It is imperative that expectations are consistent between each caregiver.  A child will be confused until he/she works out who expects what type of behavior.  This can lead to insecurity and may teach him to manipulate the different parties.

Ø      It is important that boundaries and expectations are carefully explained, and even repeated over and over, until the child understands and complies.

Ø      It is important that caregivers respond consistently, so that learning takes place quickly and without confusion.  A team talk between caregivers will assist the child greatly in learning what his boundaries are.